In an era where smartphones are as common as cars on the road, Australian families are increasingly facing a silent yet significant challenge: the impact of parents’ own phone use on their children’s development. While many of us fret about teenagers glued to their screens, new research suggests that it’s actually parents’ screen time that might be quietly shaping the next generation’s emotional, social and cognitive wellbeing.
Parental Distraction: The New Norm?
It’s a familiar scene—mum or dad at the park, scrolling through social media while their toddler plays nearby. Or a family dinner where notifications buzz and ping, pulling adults’ attention away from the conversation around the table. What seems like harmless multitasking is, in fact, a behaviour known as “technoference”—when digital devices interrupt face-to-face interactions.
Studies have shown that frequent parental phone use can disrupt the essential bonding moments between parent and child. Young children, especially, rely on these interactions for learning language, understanding emotions and developing trust. When a parent’s gaze is focused on a screen rather than their child, important cues get missed. Kids may feel ignored or less valued, potentially leading to increased tantrums, attention-seeking behaviour, or even anxiety down the track.
The Ripple Effects on Child Development
Experts warn that the consequences of parental distraction go beyond just a cranky toddler. Over time, children may develop poorer language skills, struggle with emotional regulation and show delayed social skills. It’s not just about missing out on a quick chinwag—consistent lack of meaningful engagement can affect a child’s sense of security and their ability to connect with others.
For older kids, the message is just as strong. If parents are constantly on their phones, they might inadvertently model unhealthy screen habits, making it harder to enforce limits on device use later. It becomes a classic case of “monkey see, monkey do.”
Finding Balance in a Connected World
No one expects parents to go off the grid. Smartphones are often essential for work, staying in touch with loved ones, or simply organising the daily juggle. The key is mindful use—setting aside phone-free time each day, such as at meal times, during bedtime routines, or when your child is keen to share about their day.
By making a conscious effort to be present, parents can help ensure their children grow up feeling seen, heard and valued. After all, the most important messages we send our kids don’t come through a screen—they come from a smile, a conversation on the footpath and an attentive ear.